A constant struggle in today's society, people speaking their minds too much and others not enough. I think I fall in the speaking my mind but also trying not to offend or make anyone cry category, if that's even a category. We have to decide daily how much of our minds we share with the world. I'm forever supporting staying true to yourself but there is a way to do everything in life while remaining graceful.
Obviously when someone really needs to be confronted there is no beating around the bush.
photo: shay rs photography, Shoreditch
HUMANS - SPEAK YOUR MIND!
'Speaking your mind', oh how simple that sounds. You don't need me to tell you that it will make you feel more relaxed and at ease when you aren't carrying around all of those feelings like extra baggage, or maybe you do. But honestly, release it and move on. It will allow you to have a mutual understanding with others that is based on honesty.
If you feel a certain way, express it otherwise you may end up in a situation where someone is continuously upsetting you without knowing so. Now you are pissed off and being passive aggressive and sharp with them. Now they are annoyed and are being rude to you and I'm sure you can see this unnecessary cycle.
Speaking your mind can be beneficial for others too, every once in a while us humans need to be told where we are going wrong or right. It can be a confidence booster or a needed kick up the backside.
HOW TO DO THE THING, KINDLY
With that being said, there is an obvious difference between speaking your mind and being rude. There is a saying ‘If you do not have anything nice to say do not say it at all.’ Which I agree with to a certain extent. However if you do have something that isn’t so nice to say, say it in a way which will not outright offend someone.
Example: You have a friend who always makes personal comments about you when you are around other people. The comments make you feel uncomfortable and you need to tell your friend how you feel.
Tell her, this is how I feel, I do not appreciate the comments and they make me uncomfortable. Maybe she was unaware of how intensive she is being or maybe she was just testing her luck until you actually had the guts to confront the situation.
Be real, be yourself but there are ways to treat and speak to people in this world, choose the kinder route first.
THE ART OF COMMUNICATION
Communication is so bloody important in any relationship, I cannot stress this enough, actually I can. IT IS SINGLE HANDEDLY THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. You cannot be living your life on page 202 and your friends and family are on page 12, Chapter 1. It just will not work and cracks will begin to emerge.
Know how to communicate effectively with those around you. If you have a friend who hates confrontation obviously aggressively confronting her, is not the best solution. Know your people inside out, so you all feel at ease speaking your minds to one another.
Understand the way you communicate may differ to those around you and at times you may need to adjust your ways of communication for certain relationships to work, that's life. Also allow people to communicate with you easily by being approachable and open-minded.
- SPEAK YOUR MIND
- BE OPEN
- BE HONEST
- BE UNDERSTANDING
- LISTEN WITH THE INTENT TO UNDERSTAND NOT REPLY
- BE KIND
- BE APPROACHABLE
- COMMUNICATION IS KEY
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THAT TIME WHEN SOME PEOPLE SPOKE THEIR MIND FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE
“Yo Taylor, I'm really happy for you, I'll let you finish, but Beyoncé has one of the best videos of all time. One of the best videos of all time!” Kanye West - VMA's 2009
'I always have a note in my pocket that says 'John did it' just in case I'm murdered, because I don't want him to remarry.' - Chrissy Teigen @chrissyteigen Twitter
"I don’t feel like i’m the most maternal, googly eyed mother in the world. I want to be glamorous."
“I’ve been making more effort because I don’t want to let it slip. That may sound shallow to some people but that’s my genuine feeling.” Patricia Bright YouTube link
“I’ve said if Ivanka weren’t my daughter, perhaps I’d be dating her.” - Who cares where or when? - Donald Trump
“But for me, dark meat on the side, white keeps me mean and lean you know?”Jeannie Mai, The Real - Youtube link
“I’m not buying her a fucking pair of shoes — I bought her a fucking career.” - Kim Kardashian KUWTK
"On the microphone, I’m not scared to step up and say, "This is my ability, this is how good I am." In other areas of life, I’m not so confident; I’m still adjusting to the photo shoots, all that stuff. But behind the mic, I’m fully confident. That's where I need to be.." Stormzy Pitchfork 2016